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Success Strategies : The Right Way To Deal With Change

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

The issue with change is not so much what we think of it, but rather how we respond to it. In all honesty, there are probably few words that can throw up such a kaleidoscope of emotions and differing interpretations for us.

On the one hand, we find change exciting. We all wish our lives to be ‘different’ in some way, after all, no positive progress can be made without change. However, the word also holds some very negative connotations.

Synonyms for the word ‘changeable’ include: ‘volatile’, ‘uncertain’, ‘unstable, ‘unsettled’. All of those can make us feel ‘vunerable’, ‘unsure’ and / or ‘insecure’.

There is a small corner in all of us which likes to feel safe and secure and change is not compatible with that. However, once change has occurred, we very often call it ‘evolution’, ‘progress’, ‘expansion’, ‘growth’ or ‘advancement’, and this throws up a far more positive set of emotions.

Therefore, it seems that it is not change itself which scares us so much as the transition process - that step into the unknown. We like the stability of things as they are ‘now’. Now is somehow comforting because we know what to expect.

Perhaps it is not change that we fear so much as the loss of control that we associate with change. Change inherently carries an element of risk. Sometimes that perceived risk is so big that it keeps us where we are now despite our unhappiness with our current situation.

Then, there are times when we have probably all been guilty of change for change’s sake. We change the color of our hair, we change the layout of our bedroom, we may even change where we work.

I used to change jobs every 3 or 4 months, as I couldn’t find the ‘right job’ for me. At some level, I believed that when I found the ‘right job’ all of my unhappiness would go away. However, someone once pointed out to me that you can move to the moon if you want but everything that really matters would still be the same, because you are still taking ‘you’ with you.

Why? We do it to avoid making the changes that really matter in our lives. In reality, it may be our choice of career which is the cause of our unhappiness, but we will change our hair color ‘just to cheer ourselves up’, because that is an easy and manageable change for us to cope with.

Seeing as change is inevitable, why not embrace it? Use change as an opportunity to evaluate what your life, and to get yourself back on track and focused. Use it as your key to success. How else are we going to grow?

I will leave you with a quote by Charles Darwin: “It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”
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This article was edited and distributed by Mark Walters on behalf of Mandy Swift, who was the original author. Learn More : Secrets Of Success

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The Relationship Between Leadership And Success

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

In our business, we have 5 fundamental strategies for success that we call: ‘The 5 Pillars Of Success’. These principles act as a sort of daily ’success checklist’ by which we run the business.

One of those ‘Pillars Of Success’ is ‘The Expectation Of Leadership In Yourself And Others’. Think about that statement for a moment. Our entire life, in all the various roles in which we find ourselves, we expect, and demand, leadership from those around us.

Now I know that there are many different definitions of leadership. Let me take a moment here to define what I mean by leadership. To lead, as far as I’m concerned, is to be in service for others. Leadership means service.

Leadership calls for respect, and has nothing at all to do with ‘like’. It took me a while to realize that ‘respect’ has nothing to do with ‘like’ and, likewise, ‘leadership’ has nothing to do with ‘telling people how to do something’. It has everything to do with empowering them to do things for themselves.

Leadership starts with respecting ourselves enough to be of service to ourselves. We need to show up every day in our lives and in our businesses and give both the level of respect that they deserve. Quite simply, we can not help other people before we help ourselves.

As a child, we don’t so much expect, we naturally assume, that our parents will be our leaders. At school, we look to our teachers to be leaders. As adults, in every single one of our daily transactions, there is an expectation of leadership from one person or another.

We expect our manager to make the right decisions and lead the company to success. We expect the shop assistant to lead us through our purchasing decisions. We expect the bank clerk to lead us through our financial transactions.

Wed expect leadership in others literally every day. But what of the leadership we expect from ourselves? If we expect those around us to be in leadership for us, shouldn’t we be expecting leadership in ourselves also? Shouldn’t we be demanding that we are also a role model?

So, the next time you find yourself getting frustrated whilst standing in line at the bank, or cussing the traffic warden for leaving a ticket on your car, ask yourself this: Do you stand in leadership for yourself and others in every area of your life?

If you are fulfilling your duty as a leader, then congratulations, I have no doubts that your life and your business are thriving at the moment. But if not, before you point the finger of blame at somebody else, remember that that you are no better than them, and people you know are pointing at and blaming you.
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Success Strategies : Have You Got What It Takes To Be A ‘Plan A’ Person?

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

Of the many secrets to success, being a ‘Plan A’ person is one of the most fundamental. So then, what is a ‘Plan A’ person, and how can you tell if you are being one in every area of your life?

First, let me define what a ‘Plan A’ person is. A friend of mine, and one of the best examples of a ‘Plan A’ person that I know, put it like this: “A ‘Plan A’ person is a person who’s plan B is that plan A works”. Simple, right? No ‘if’s’, no ‘buts’, and definitely no plan B. Plan A works. Full stop.

If you want to be a ‘Plan A’ person, then important lesson number 1 is to create a plan A for yourself. You need to spend some time making sure that it is a good one too, as remember that will be no plan B in place.

Important lesson number 2 is to never give up on plan A. Every now and then life throws up barriers, and when you come face to face with obstacles, some of life’s little stumbling blocks, you need to be resolute.

Only having one plan is really to your benefit here as, when you have more than one choice, you stop to consider your choices and ponder on the best route to take going forwards. When that happens, you take your eyes off the prize, make the wrong choice, and your original intentions become diluted at best, but more probably lost forever.

Important lesson number 3 is to never change your plan A. Remember, that if you change your plan A, then it becomes plan B, which are no longer allowed!

Now you know what being a ‘Plan A’ person involves. The question now is how to become a ‘Plan A’ person if you currently are not. How do you step up to the mark if you’re currently a Plan B, C, D or even E person?

As they say, success breeds success and, similarly, ‘Plan A’ people breed ‘Plan A’ people. The alphabet only goes up to Z, so I don’t even think there is even a proper term that describes me before I made the conscious decision to become a ‘Plan A’ person i.e I was a ‘Plan Z+’ person.

However, by making making friends, and doing business, with ‘Plan A’ people, it didn’t take me long to become one too. It really is as simple as emulating the successful people that you admire.

If I can do it, then so can you. You’ve already taken a big step in the right direction, you now just need to keep going in that direction. Do that, and the success that you’ve always dreamed of will soon be yours!
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30 Seconds To Easy Self Hypnosis.

Tuesday, December 1st, 2009

There are many ways in which to induce a tranquil, relaxed state of mind, in which the body is still, and the conscious mind is simply placed aside for a while as the subconscious mind assumes a more dominant role, and allows the therapeutic cognitive processes which are innate in all of us to become active.

This state of mind, known as the hypnotic state is very simply created by;
- Focusing one’s attention.
- Relaxing the body.
- Allowing unnecessary thoughts to enter, then exit, without any rationalisation.

This process can be easily accomplished by the technique that follows. It is known as the “Eye Roll Technique’, and is a very old but powerful way of entering a safe therapeutic hypnotic trance. When in this relaxed state of mind, it is possible to offer oneself any positive suggestions or affirmations in order to bring about the changes which you desire. Examples of positive statements and affirmations are given further on.

THE TECHNIQUE.
If possible, find yourself a quiet place and either sit down or lie down comfortably.
Roll up your eyes, just as if you were trying to look at your eyebrows.
Allow your eyelids to slowly close, and as you do so, take in a deep breath and hold it.

As you slowly exhale, allow your upturned eyes to return to their normal position.

As you finish exhaling, enjoy that gentle, floating sensation that you will experience.
At the same time, imagine your right hand to be very light, like it has a childs helium balloon tied to it making it rise gently. You may be surprised at the ease by which your hand and arm seem to float up by themselves.
This floating hand signal is a signal from your subconscious mind that you are entering a state of deep relaxation.

As you remain in this deeply relaxed, hypnotic state of mind, offer yourself any positive, therapeutic suggestions which you feel will help to bring about the changes you really want or need.
Remain in this state for 10-20 minutes, that’s really all that’s needed.

You can repeat the process as many times a day as you like.

EXITING THE TRANCE STATE.
Roll up your eyes behind your closed eyelids.
Very slowly, allow your eyelids to open, and the eyes to focus.
Make a tight fist with your right hand, and as you do, allow this light floating hand to drift down into a comfortable position. As it comes to rest, release the tight fist and gently stretch those fingers.……FINISHED !!!!

If necessary, the exit from the trance state can be accomplished any time by going through the steps listed above.

It may take you a little time to perfect the technique, especially if you are the ‘on the go all the time’ sort of person. Relaxation comes easier to some people than to others, so always bear this in mind.

Remember, if you want to make positive changes in your life, this relatively short use of your time can pay great dividends in the end. The beauty of it is that once you have practiced and mastered the technique, you will be able to enter the relaxed state much more easily and deeply.

Another point to remember is that everyone is capable of entering into a hypnotic state.
But just as we are all different, so is the ease with which we enter into a hypnotic trance.
Some will succeed on their first or second attempt, where as others may need many more attempts. It took me a week and a half, and about 15 attempts before I achieved a hypnotic state. The motto is—PERSERVERE. It may take time, but the rewards are well worth the effort.

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Positive Parenting And The Use Of Hypnosis For Children

Tuesday, December 1st, 2009

The use of hypnosis for children is starting to be a common method in dealing with children who are having difficulties in advancing into adulthood. Aside from using hypnosis to deal with different behavioural and health problems, hypnosis parenting or using hypnosis with your children at home is also starting to get known.

Hypnosis parenting, experts claim, is a method o positive parenting. What are ideas behind this parenting and how do they work?

Hypnosis is not ordering or becoming authoritative to other people. This is something that we should understand and be clear about. Hypnosis, unlike what we commonly know, is not about making people do something which they would not remember or stop doing. Hypnosis is about suggestions.

Experts said that our children are already suggestible from their parents. Almost all parents are familiar with their baby’s emotions and facial expressions. Actually, if we smile in a baby and make eye contact it is highly possible that would be smiling back. Children learn from the parents through the parents’ actions and expressions. If a parent want to teach something to their children, it is important to show an example that we are also following these rules that were set out for them.

Hypnosis parenting is not only applicable when you want your children to do their homework or do household chores. You can only use hypnosis to help them with difficulty in sleeping or nervousness and tension before exams, school presentation or a game.

How to do this?

You can start by talking to them before they go to sleep. Make sure that they are comfortable and make them close their eyes. You could start telling a story which would show the protagonist succeeding in the challenges that he faced. Use positive images when telling a story. This would help your child ease the tension. Aside from helping your child ease out the tension, the parent and the child also got the chance to spent some bonding moment together.

What the parent say have an impact on how children feel about themselves. An example would be the behaviour they show. If the child is refuses to follow certain rules in the house, and you get a heated discussion over it, more probably that the child would still be the same.

You could replace the heated discussion with random positive statements, like saying that the child are improving much on their behaviour and acknowledging their efforts to behave. The child will feel better and eventually will believe that he is indeed behaving well. Soon enough, the child will change his behaviour for the better.

These simple suggestions helped the children’s mind or its subconscious to accept and believe in them. So if the statements made or the statements that a child can hear are all negative, the subconscious would believe it and the child will follow it in real life.

But if positive statements are heard by the child, even if they are randomly dropped statements, the subconscious perceive this as the truth and would eventually translate into their actions.

Hypnosis for children can even be used in encouraging them to do household chores. All you want to do is look at them straight into the eyes and ask them to do the household chores. A little bobbing of the head, would encourage your child to agree to do the job delegated to them.

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